It is a failure of society if anyone needs to say “I have a partner” to turn someone down, and it is a failure of society if anyone needs to invoke a sexual orientation to avoid unwanted sex because saying no doesn’t do the job.

... It takes active work to step back, to create even enough space to take a breath and admit that maybe you don't know what you want, but what has been offered has never felt right.

Representation not only reflects, but actually changes reality.

Loving another person should never mean forfeiting bodily autonomy.

Aces aren't a puzzle with a missing piece. Everyone is their own full puzzle.

Straight people are rarely treated like they’re close-minded for knowing their sexual orientation, but aces are assumed to be unsure and always on the brink of finding the person who will change everything.

Heterosexuality is not merely a sexual orientation that happens to be the orientation of most people. Heterosexuality is a political institution that is taught and conditioned and reinforced.